Episode 102 | Boy Mom Strong: Building Young Men of High Character

Raising young men in today’s world can be tough, but not impossible. Monica Swanson encourages moms to study their sons to form real relationships and lasting character.

Bio

Wife of a hospital physician and mama of four boys, Monica Swanson lives on the north shore of the Hawaiian island of Oahu. They grow tropical fruits on their land that overlooks the “7 Mile Miracle” spot of some of the best surfing beaches in the world. She homeschools all of the boys, and just launched the oldest off to college in California. Her book Boy Mom: What Your Son Needs Most From You is a widely-read and acclaimed book among Christian boy moms across the nation.

Boy Mom Staying at Home

We recorded this episode while still in the house at the start of the pandemic. My boy was bouncing off the walls for a while until I found different ways to engage his brain. Monica’s oldest is off to college and she is revealing in all four of her sons being at home together.

We talk about how to build a healthy relationship with your boys by doing things like walking and doing things together side by side. Physical touch,

words of affirmation and affection are all so important when they’re little.

“Will they pull away when they’re older?” I wondered? Monica helps to calm my concerns around losing the closeness with our sons as they grow.

“Be a student of your son… understand their personality and love languages.”

-Monica Swanson

Being intentional about what speaks to them will cause them to reciprocate eventually.

Boy moms need thick skin, and gracious responses when they don’t respond how we want.

The Boy Mom Sandwich

Monica mentions the three keys from her book when it comes to interacting with your boy:

Boundaries

Freedom

Discipline

“Boundaries will only work well if there are appropriate freedoms.”

-Monica Swanson

We talk about how important it is for boys to experience real adventure. There are positive and negative adventure-seeking activities, so discover different types of “adventure” you may not have realized could be meaningful to your son.

Boy Mom Talk

We need to shift the way we talk to our boys that will lead them into a growth mindset.

When it comes to protecting boys from dangers online and approaching sexuality, we talk about a few great resources you need to invest in today!

When you’re a mom of young boys, it’s tempting to not deal with hard things from internet to feelings to character. If you don’t know where to look first when approaching difficult subjects, pick up Monica’s book today and don’t let the overwhelm get you down.