When I first moved to Hawaii, my son was 1 year old and my daughter was 2½.  Those kids had a lot of energy!  It was already difficult to keep up with, plus I was busy unpacking boxes and setting up our new house.

To make matters worse, I was woefully out of shape.

Truth be told, I had never really been in shape at any point in my life.  The physical demands of that season had simply exposed that fact.

I knew logically (and because everybody who was in shape told me so) that regular exercise gives you more energy.  I get it.  When your body has cardio endurance and muscle, chasing a one year old doesn’t drain the life out of you.

Even though I really wanted that end result, I put off exercising for a long time because I knew that getting started would not be fun.

Simply put: I was afraid.

When I finally worked up my courage to join a Stroller Strides group (amazing program by the way!), the first class almost killed me.  The warm-up alone took all the effort I had, and about halfway through the class I was ready to give up.

Enduring the Pain of the Beginning

Thankfully, the instructor and the other moms were extremely supportive.  One mom even offered to push my double stroller along with her own just to give me a break!

I barely made it through the workout, and that afternoon all I wanted to do was flop on the couch and close my eyes.  I was sore all over, my kids watched way too much TV that day, and dinner was leftovers.

I certainly wasn’t excited to exercise again, but I went to another class two days later anyway.


Because I still believed the long-term result would be worth the effort.

After a few weeks of forcing myself to go to class, there came a day when the instructor said it was time to cool down, and I remember thinking, “Already?”

Surprisingly, I had been able to keep up with the others. That afternoon I felt good! I ran my errands, took the kids to the park, cooked dinner, and did a load of laundry, and I wasn’t exhausted. It was working!!!

Our House is Like Our Body

I tell this story, because the exact same progression applies to getting our houses in shape.

When there is too much stuff, and it is not organized in an intentional way, and especially when we do not have consistent routines, our house feels heavy and awkward.

We trip over our stuff and waste time looking for things.  We feel irritated because every task feels harder than it should be.  We become frustrated with family members who get in our way.  At the end of the day we are left feeling exhausted and discouraged.

We know logically that decluttering, downsizing, reorganizing, and training our habits will make everything easier. We believe other women who say that the work is worth the effort.  But we also know that getting started is going to be tough!

If you push through the pain, you will feel the relief!

The first night you stay on your feet an extra 15 minutes to clear the kitchen counters and do the dishes, it’s not going to be fun. You will have to force yourself not to flop on the couch.

But the next morning, you experience the joy of waking up to a clean kitchen.  You’ll have your coffee in hand before the kids come running.  Breakfast faster, making it easier to get out the door on time.  You’ll say to yourself, “It’s working!”

It is worth the effort!

The first time you donate a bag filled with clothes that you paid money for and barely wore, it’s not going to feel great.  But one day you will be putting your laundry away, and you’ll realize you can actually fit all of your clothes and shoes neatly in your closet at the same time! You will be glad you pushed through the pain.

The first time you sit with your children to sift through their toys, you will have to summon a whole lot of patience and persistence. But, oh my goodness, the relief when your kids are finally capable of cleaning up the play room!

Most of us have been putting off the decluttering, downsizing, and reorganizing process, because we dread the beginning.

But the truth is this:  The energy it takes to live in a cluttered and dysfunctional house year after year is more taxing than the energy it would take to get the house in shape once and for all.

You have the power to get your house in shape!

Looking back, I might not have been able to push through those first few workout sessions had it not been for the encouraging and supportive group of moms who walked with me.  That is why Home On Purpose is so passionate about connecting women who are all on the same journey toward a more functional home.

When you are ready to get started . . . 

– Choose the area you’d like to transform first and sign up for a Home On Purpose Lesson Series.

Request a Personal Consultation for one-on-one coaching.

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