Amber and Wendy are back for part 2 of this series on how real moms get honest about anger and what happens to our reactions when we feel out of control.
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Meet the Authors!
A former high school English teacher, Amber is a work-at-home mom of 4 little boys under the age of 11. She is the best-selling author of Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, say Something New. She and her husband Guy own Storehouse Media Group, a faith-friendly and family-friendly TV and Film production company in Los Angeles, CA. When she’s not building sand castles with her boys on the beach, or searching for Nerf darts all over her house, you can find Amber writing to encourage families on her blog at Mother of Knights.
As a trained actress and heartfelt Bible teacher, Wendy Speake ministers to women’s hearts through storytelling and Biblical life application. During her career in Hollywood, Wendy found herself longing to tell stories that edify and encourage women. Today she does just that, writing and speaking, always pointing her audiences to Jesus. Co-author of Triggers, Parenting Scripts, and Life Creative, and host of the 40 Day Sugar Fast. Wendy resides in Southern California with her husband and their 3 ruddy boys. She also ministers to women on a regular basis at Wendyspeake.com.
Honesty for Angry Moms
In their book Triggers, each chapter ends in a prayer, a chance to come to the Lord in our neediness:
“God called us to self-control, not others-control.” -Wendy Speake.
Sometimes, there is a need for Silent Scripts… sometime you just don’t need to talk. Sometimes we need to take a “holy pause,” a “mommy time out,” if you will. In fact, everyone in the house can take a break!
Find wisdom in the practice of holding your tongue. I mean… this is good for pretty much any circumstance that gets under your skin!
Steps Away from Anger
Amber and Wendy remind us that forming new habits take practice – and it’s the practice of not engaging in angry ways. Thinking before we speak… remember that acronym, mama?
Ask yourself: Is it…
T – true
H – helpful
I – inspiring
N – necessary
K – kind
Our reactions really need to be all of these things. It’s easy to camp out on the TRUE part of our words, but when they’re not said in a kind and inspiring, loving and gracious way, that truth kind of goes out the window.
It’s WHAT we say and HOW we say it. Our kids will not necessarily what we said, but they will absolutely remember how we made them feel.
Listener Questions from Real Moms
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode
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Triggers: Exchanging Parent’s Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses examines common parenting issues that cause us to explode inappropriately at our children. Moving beyond simple parenting tips on how to change your child’s behavior, authors Amber Lia and Wendy Speake offer biblical insight and practical tools to equip and encourage you on the journey away from anger-filled reactions toward gentle, biblical responses.
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You want to say the right thing when your children do wrong — trouble is most parents aren’t sure where to even begin. Parenting Scripts is the much-needed resource for moms and dads who are desperate to speak life to their children instead of defaulting to the same old words and ineffective consequences. Focusing on the most ordinary and yet troublesome areas in our daily routines, Parenting Scripts helps parents to craft intentional and well thought out and prayed over words. Parenting Scripts leads parents to a calm place where they can pinpoint their family’s bad habits and choose better ways of dealing with immature behavior — theirs and their children’s.